Don't Give Up, Mama. What You're Doing is Important.
Do you ever feel like the only purpose of your life is to make sure everyone else is taken care of? Like the only thing you're good for is birthing babies and raising them? Lost in the weeds? Always in the background? A last thought? Only existing for someone else? I've been there.
Actually, I'm there now, and I can almost guarantee that all moms of little ones have been there at some point in their lives. It seems like this stage in your life of raising babies and toddlers will never end. You always put yourself last, and maybe others put you last as well.
You never sleep, but it doesn't matter because your kids need you. Your husband needs you. There is laundry to be done, dishes to be washed, dinner to be cooked, and floors to be swept.
And if you work, there's an even bigger load on you. There is always something that needs your attention, and it seems like rest is nowhere in sight.
That's all you want. Not just rest from you motherly duties, but complete rest. Rest from worry. Rest from the stress of big decisions. Rest from all the noise around you telling you you're doing it all wrong. That you’re not good enough. That some other woman out there would be a better mom to your babies than you are.
I often forget that my role as a mother is greater than any other role I may play in my entire life. My job is to raise children who grow up to be kind, to love God, and to show God's love to others so that they may lead them to Him.
Sometimes I find myself wishing these years away. Wishing for a time they can take care of themselves for the most part. When I can go back to being me again. When I don't have to clean up cereal off the floor or a spilled drink or a potty accident.
We ran into a couple from our old church a few weeks ago. They were gushing over our cute kids in awe of how our family has grown, since they had known us since we were kids ourselves. They just kept telling us, "These are the best years of your life. I'd give anything to go back to when my boys were little."
Talk about a reality check. Here I am feeling sorry for myself when I should be enjoying this time with my kids. The point I'm trying to make is this: I know it's hard. It's the hardest thing you'll ever do, but what you're doing is so, so important.
So, for those of you who long for rest, rest in the one who gives His.
Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
And for when you feel alone, or that no one sees the work you put in or notices the sacrifices you're making, know that God sees you. He knows.
Psalm 139:1-3 You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.
And finally, don't give up. It's hard. It's exhausting. It's even painful at times. And since sometimes God may be the only one who knows our struggles and sees and appreciates our work, do it for Him.
Colossians 3:23. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord...